Understanding self-confidence and self-esteem: A therapist’s insight 

What is the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?

How low self-esteem or self-confidence can affect you?

Low self-confidence can result in: 

• Anxiety that affects performance that affects performance in academic or professional settings. 
• Difficulty communicating or performing in public due to nervousness. 
• Difficulty making decisions or second-guessing options.  
• Reluctance to accept responsibility due to fear of making mistakes. 
• Staying within comfort zones and hesitating to pursue new opportunities. 
• Insecurity about one’s potential to achieve ambitions, resulting in poor performance. 
• Difficulty initiating conversations or interacting in social situations.  
• Increased reliance on others for affirmation and approval. 

Low self-esteem can result in: 

• Increased feelings of worthlessness and self-doubt. 
• Shying away from social engagements due to fear of judgment. 
• Having persistent negative thoughts about oneself. 
• Distorted perception of personal abilities and worth. 
• Feelings of powerlessness about personal development. 
• Neglecting self-care and health. 
• A gloomy attitude towards life and upcoming opportunities. 

What could cause low levels of self-confidence?

1. Negative early experiences: Childhood criticism, bullying, or a lack of support can cause long-term self-doubt.
2. Unrealistic comparisons: Comparing oneself to others, particularly on social media, might elicit emotions of inadequacy.
3. Fear of failure: Consistent setbacks or fear of judgment can erode confidence.
4. Perfectionism: Having overly high expectations sometimes results in disappointment.
5. Negative self-talk: Constantly criticising oneself can undermine confidence.
6. Trauma: Past trauma or abuse can have long-term consequences for one's self-worth.

What could cause low levels of self-esteem?

1. Trauma or abuse: Being traumatised, abused, or neglected can have a significant effect on one's self-esteem. 
2. Body image issues: Being dissatisfied with the way you look or having health issues might affect self-esteem. 
3. Social isolation: A lack of strong social connections or support can cause feelings of worthlessness. 
4. Failure and rejection: Repeated failures in personal or professional life can make someone feel worthless. 
5. Mental health: Anxiety, depression, and other conditions can affect one's self-perception. 
6. Societal pressure: Cultural or societal pressures, such as beauty standards or achievement indicators, can elicit feelings of inadequacy. 
7. Lack of achievement: Failing to reach milestones or personal objectives might leave one feeling incompetent or unworthy. 
8. Relationship issues: Toxic relationships, in which one feels devalued or unloved, may damage one's self-esteem over time. 

Symptoms of low self-confidence and self-esteem

1. Avoidance of challenges: Resisting changes or tasks that might cause failure because one feels incapable of doing them. 
2. Negative self-talk: Often criticising or doubting oneself. 
3. Social withdrawal: Avoiding social situations because of a worry about being judged. 
4. Difficulties in decision-making: A lack of confidence in making decisions. 
5. Fear of rejection: Oversensitivity to criticism or rejection. 
6. Physical symptoms: Headaches and exhaustion are examples of stress-related symptoms. 

Ways to build your self-esteem

1. Set realistic goals: Setting realistic goals can enhance confidence. 
2. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself, especially during challenging times. 
3. Focus on your strengths: Recognise and develop your abilities. 
4. Challenge negative thoughts: Replace self-doubt with positive affirmations. 
5. Surround yourself with positivity: Spend time with supportive individuals. 
6. Learn new skills: Increase your confidence by learning something new. 
7. Exercise regularly: Physical activity boosts happiness and self-esteem. 
8. Celebrate small wins: Recognise and celebrate your successes. 
9. Set boundaries: Prioritise your needs while safeguarding your mental health. 
10. Seek professional help: Therapy can help you improve your self-esteem. 

Ways to build your self-confidence

1. Step outside your comfort zone: Push yourself to attempt new things, even unpleasant ones. 
2. Focus on achievements: Reflect on previous triumphs to remind yourself of your talents. 
3. Set small goals: Break down large tasks into smaller, more doable steps. 
4. Positive affirmations: Positive self-talk involves replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts. 
5. Take care of your physical health: Exercise regularly and eat healthily to boost your mental and physical health regularly 
6. Develop new skills: Learning a new skill may enhance your self-confidence. 
7. Accept mistakes: Understand that failure is a part of the growing process. 
8. Be prepared: Being informed and equipped boosts confidence. 
9. Surround yourself with positive people: Spend less time with folks who make you unhappy. 
10. Celebrate progress: Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how minor.  

When to consult a doctor?

Mental Health Care Plan with Hola

In conclusion