What is the root cause of low self-esteem?

Common characteristics of low self-esteem

• Self-criticism or saying negative things about yourself 
• Focusing on your flaws rather than strengths 
• Regularly comparing yourself to others 
• Negative self-talk 
• Difficulty accepting compliments 
• Avoiding new challenges due to lack of confidence 
• Prioritising others’ approval over personal needs 
• Hesitancy and indecisiveness 
• Avoid social interactions due to fear of judgment 
• Struggle to make friends  

What could be the root causes of low self-esteem?

• Unhappy childhood experiences where parents or caregivers were extremely critical. 
• Personal failures or poor academic performance in school  
• Ongoing toxic or unsupportive relationships affecting self-worth 
• Chronic medical problems 
• Distorted thinking and pessimistic thought processes 
• Comparing yourself to others on social media 

What are the effects of low self-esteem?

Emotional effects:

• Anxiety and depression: Persistent negative thoughts and feelings about oneself can cause anxiety and grief. 
• Feelings of worthlessness: People with low self-esteem may believe that they do not deserve pleasure or achievement. 
• Lack of confidence: They may question their abilities and avoid taking chances or attempting new things. 
• Self-criticism: Self-criticism is defined as excessive self-blame and a focus on perceived shortcomings or mistakes. 

Behavioural effects:

• Avoidance of social situations: Fear of rejection or judgment can lead to social disengagement and isolation. 
• Passive behaviour: Difficulty asserting oneself or advocating for personal interests and rights. 
• Overachieving or underachieving: Some people may overcompensate by becoming perfectionists, whilst others might avoid tasks for fear of failing. 
• Substance abuse: Low self-esteem can lead to dangerous behaviours such as substance abuse as a means of coping mechanism. 

Interpersonal effects:

• Interpersonal issues: Relationship issues include insecure attachment patterns, a persistent need for validation, and remaining in toxic relationships. 
• Lack of trust: Individuals with poor self-esteem may struggle to trust others for fear of being judged or rejected. 
• Over-reliance on approval: Seeking frequent affirmation from others and determining one's value based on the views of others. 

Work or school-related effects:

• Fear of failure: Refusing to take on new tasks or opportunities because you are afraid you will fail. 
• Procrastination: Procrastination is the practice of putting off duties because one believes that they are incapable of doing them satisfactorily. 
• Lower performance: A lack of confidence can impair academic or professional performance, increasing feelings of inadequacy. 

Physical health:

• Stress-related illnesses: Chronic stress, which is linked to low self-image, can cause headaches, exhaustion, and other physical symptoms. 
• Poor self-care: People with low self-esteem may ignore their physical health by not exercising, eating inappropriately, or neglecting medical concerns. 

When should I see my doctor?

Where to get help?

1. Hola Health Mental Health Care Plan: The Hola Health mental health care plan is designed to provide structured and accessible mental health support. It helps individuals experiencing mental health challenges, such as anxiety, depression, or stress, connect with mental health professionals and receive the appropriate care. 
2. Lifeline: For anyone in crisis or thinking about suicide, call 13 11 14 or chat online at Lifeline. 
3. Suicide Call Back Service: For anyone contemplating suicide, call 1300 659 467.